Hi! My name's Mel.

I'm a somatic relationship coach who works with the queer & questioning (and those who love them) who are exploring non-monogamy

I live on the unceded territories of the Musquem, Tseil-Waututh, and Squamish nations in the Pacific Northwest, and am of mixed Greek, Romani, an Irish descent. 
I'm a life-long student of somatics in diverse forms, and have been practicing consensual non-monogamy in my intimate relationships since the early 2010s.
I absolutely love what I do. I love my clients, and I love the process of working with you, and seeing the transformations that happen in relationships. I’m committed to making space in the world for people to express their deepest desires, and to live and love in healthy ways. And I bring all my skills and experiences (everything from studying in yoga ashrams to management, to peer counselling and my own relationship learnings) to support you.

I’ve had first hand experience of a wide spectrum of relationships.
Formerly monogamous, I came to explore non-monogamy as I sought out a more authentic way of living; I was tired of living by a default set of expectations for how my life was expected to unfold.

After a miscarriage in 2009 and struggling with depression, I began diving into the question of what I really needed, wanted, and desired in my life. I knew I wanted to have more than one partner, and I knew I didn’t want to have any dishonesty in my relationships. In 2012 I began writing my blog, Polysingleish; it was a way to explore and process the unconventional approach to polyamory I was finding myself drawn to.

I realised I enjoyed diving into the inner workings of relationships of all styles, and I chose to pursue my certification in Counselling for Intimacy in Relationships from the Vancouver College of Counselor Training, and am trained in Holistic Peer Counselling and ZEGG Forum facilitation. My formal training in Somatics includes Hanna Somatics (Somatic Movement) with the Institute of Applied Somatics, two courses with the Institute for the Study of Somatic Sex Education, and I am currently awaiting my certification as a Somatic Experiencing Practitioner through Somatic Experiencing International.

Prior to being a relationship coach, I enjoyed a career teaching acting and theatre skills, and for over a decade I was a professional bodyworker. I hold a BA(Hons) in Acting, a LAMDA Gold Medal for Acting with Honors, and a Diploma in Bodywork and Massage. I am former faculty for the Vancouver School of Healing Arts, and I am also an artist, event producer, and occasionally a DJ for ecstatic dance events.

I bring the diversity of who I am to my practice.
I bring all my experience to the work I do and aim to meet my client wherever they are at, whatever their own background, without judgement.

I have presented talks and workshops on the subject of relationships at Vancouver Island University, Douglas College, Bass Coast Festival BC, Vancouver Polyamory 101, Nanaimo Poly 101, Comox Valley Poly 101, Atlanta Polyamory, The Greater Vancouver Interactive Arts Society, Love Sex Intelligence Culture Labs, Modern Sex Talks, WestCoast Bound, ConvergeCon, PolyCon Canada, and more.

In 2014 I co-founded the Solo Polyamory group on Facebook, and I also co-produced the first International Solo Polyamory Unconference. I’ve been featured as an expert on non-monogamous relationships in Newsweek, Elle Magazine, Huffington Post, Vancouver Courier, CBC Radio Canada, Refinery29, The Greatist, Fatherly, and many others, and have been a guest on numerous podcasts.

I enjoy nurturing joyful, fulfilling relationships within my local community and chosen family around the world.

What my clients have to say

Sue's coaching has had a major impact to my life. She is so supportive and responsible, and led me to some life changes that I would have never achieved by myself.
Julia Stobbard
Sue's approach to my difficulties was excellent. She did a great job in organizing priorities and communicating the right approach to me, which led to some impressive results in my life.
Rob Stevens
I am simply amazed with how Sue managed to lead me to achieving some things that I've been failing to achieve by myself for so many years. I can't wait to see what happens next...
Kaisha Salas

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