The Non Monogamy
Grief Workshop

  • A LIVE Workshop

    Somatic Skills for breakups, bereavement, and more, within the context of Non-Monogamous Relationships

    next workshop:
    Dec 7th 2025
    11am-2:30pm
    Pacific Time

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    Grief doesn’t just happen in response to death; in relationships, we may feel grief again and again. In any kind of relationship, there is grief with breakups, discovering a partner has broken an agreement (or other acts of infidelity), the loss of a beloved animal, the loss of a child, and disappointment upon discovering an incompatibility.

    In the arc of a romantic relationship, grief comes alongside differentiation, that phase where, having been besotted with New Relationship Energy (which helps us see all the ways in which we are compatible with our partner and build a fantasy to aspire to) we slowly come to reclaim our self identity and begin to experience all the ways in which we are different and seek out the grounded reality of the relationship potential.

    Sometimes that process is gentle, sometimes it is sudden. But, with the shattering of a fantasy, there is also the grief of its loss.


    There is a fundamental grief that comes with exploring non-monogamy.

    It is a mourning of the promises Patriarchal Monogamy made to us, and the dreams we built on those promises.


    In this workshop, you will explore the different kinds of grief you might encounter in your non-monogamous relationships and be guided through somatic exercises to connect with grief in an empowering and embodied way.

    Through this workshop, you’ll be able to connect with diverse and creative ways to move through your own grief process.

    This workshop is for anyone who has experienced significant relationship changes, relationship and friendship breakups, or the loss of a partner or a member of chosen family in recent years.

    Over three hours, you'll explore the stages of grief and how to support a healthy relationship with loss, using somatic skills and practices.

    You'll have opportunities to connect to your own experiences of grief through the language of sensations, not story, and to feel held and witnessed in your experience.

    And, you'll come away with practical, trauma-informed tools and somatically-inspired creative ideas to explore as you continue in your grief journey.

    Participants will NOT be asked to divulge any personal details about their grief; breakout sessions will focus on peer support for witnessing the impact of grief, rather than the origin of it, and will not be recorded.

    Scroll down to review the introduction to the Grief workshop for free!

    This workshop is being offered at the price of $60 Canadian Dollars (that's about $43 US Dollars, or 38Euros).

    As always, I'm committed to financial accessibility.

    Use the code LOWINCOME to receive a 15% discount (for folks whose income is reduced or below a living wage where they live).
    Use the code STUDENT to receive a 30% discount (for folks enrolled in school and/or experiencing extreme financial hardship).

    Those who are able to pay more help me off-set my costs and keep this work financially accessible to everyone who needs it!

    • Free Introductory Lesson 
    • Live, Interactive Zoom Workshop
    • Workshop recording access till Jan 12th
    • Follow Up Resources and Journaling Prompts!

    A Somatic Approach

    We'll be exploring embodied, somatic approaches to navigating grief that support mind, body, heart, and spirit.

    This isn't a substitute for therapy, but it can be a supportive supplement to therapeutic approaches to grief work.

    Non-Monogamy Focussed

    Whilst all relationship styles and experiences are welcome to join, the focus will be on some of the unique grief experiences in non-monogamous relationships, including mourning previous monogamous experiences, the complexity of breakups within the context of ongoing polyamorous relationships, and more.
    Thank you Mel for such an enlightening and helpful workshop! I thoroughly enjoyed all of it and look forward to continued learning from you. So grateful for all these extra resources.
    The work you are doing is changing the world in such positive ways, and helping people change their own worlds, both inner and outer.
    past workshop participant

    Why I created this workshop:

    In 2021, I experienced the end of a non-monogamous relationship that was precipitated by infidelity, and sent tectonic shifts through my whole relationship landscape.

    In the wake of all of this, I found myself under-supported in navigating the complexities of the situation. I had a therapist who didn't understand the nuances of non-monogamy (and was quick to blame non-monogamy for why the relationship didn't work out), and even polyamorous support spaces fell short when it came to addressing the sense of 'polyamorous loneliness' that set it.

    It wasn't just the loss of a single dating relationship I was navigating: connections within my polycule were impacted, I was grieving for the unfulfilled potential of these relationships, and I was also mourning the loss of an attachment experience in my relational landscape.

    It was also peak pandemic times, and the usual outlets I'd have after a breakup (like going dancing, getting right back into dating new people, hanging out with my friends, or going travelling) weren't so accessible.

    So I spent several months alone in a process of grief that transformed my relationship to grief, breakups, and gave me new understandings of what grief in polyamory could feel like.

    I started writing about my grief journey, and pulling from different grief traditions and somatic practices to work through what I was experiencing.

    I felt a clear drive to offer others the support I hadn't found when I needed it, so I created a workshop on navigating grief in non-monogamy with the intention that it could be a space where grief could also be witnessed and held communally with loving care.

    This workshop has grown and evolved since then, and now includes more somatic tools and practices, alongside practical frameworks for understanding the journey of grief work.

    Patrick Jones - Course author
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